I am sorry you are going through this. You are never responsible for how another person behaves. You are only responsible for you. JWs always try to make their bad behavior your fault, then it absolves them of responsibility for their actions ( at least in their twisted world). They are acting badly, it is their choice to act badly. It is a blatant attempt to manipulate you, if you can see it for what it is, it becomes ineffective. ❤️ And hugs - it gets better with time.
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Day 1: The Night of Anger, Tears, and Pain
by Saethydd inmy freedom came with a heavy cost.
i couldn't stand the dishonesty so when my sister went out of town on a trip i told my parents that i no longer wanted to be a jw.
when my sister got back and i told her she was so angry, said she really wanted to slap me, then she ran off sobbing, a few minutes later she deposited every gift i ever gave her in front of my door.. my entire family has turned against me.
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Feeling Alone. Need Emotional Support.
by Doubtfully Yours inplease chime in if you're one of my kindred spirit that happens to literally be trapped in due to strong family/friends ties, or plain fear of being abandoned in old age.. although leaving the org is my ultimate wish and desire, fear of the unknown, fear of how it would change my family dinamics, plain fear alone paralyzes me.
how do you cope in this difficult situation?
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For all of the worse case scenarios I imagined would happen if I left, none of them were as bad as I imagined. AND the freedom and success were better than I could have imagined. Being free is worth any sacrifice.
You will make new friends if you allow yourself to. You will find new interests and they can all be of your own choosing.
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How do you talk to a child that believes Jehovah/Armageddon is real
by Anony Mous ini'm having some serious issues with my child, she is now 5 and her mother is teaching her all sorts of things regards god, jehovah is real, in heaven, pray if you're scared, etc.
the problem is the kid is scared of demons at night and also conflicted that i don't believe, she also figured out jehovah doesn't actually help her not to be scared.. i've tried explaining that i'm there for her, watching over at night.
i've tried introducing her to various churches and beliefs so she understands there is a difference in believes and she likes those churches better than kingdom hall.
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For my niece, I told her different people believe different things. And that I didn't believe in that kind of thing, and it was up to her if she believed in it or not. And I assured her she didn't need to worry about me dying at Armageddon I would be ok.
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JW Grandparent Drama
by What Now? inmy mom and sisters have not had any contact with my family for the past year and a half.. we even recently announced a new pregnancy and none of them acknowledged it or called to say congratulations or anything.. this past week my non-witness grandfather passed away and i had thought that for the sake of his death and funeral, it being "necessary family business" that they would at least be civil in front of our other family.
all of them still ignored me, my sisters didn't even speak to my children at all - to be honest i don't think my kids even knew who they were.
for the sake of my grandmother i made a small attempt at the end of the day to say goodbye to my mother and she kind of just brushed past me and said goodbye without really looking at me.. anyways my grandmother told me later that my mom spoke to her and said "i love my daughter and i love my grandchildren and i'm so upset that she won't allow me to see them".
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I had to let go of my family. You are not responsible for your family's bad behavior, and there is nothing wrong in not allowing yourself to be treated badly by them. When they want to act like normal human beings they are welcome in your life until then, they are only victimizing themselves. They are trying to manipulate and control you, don't fall for it.
After many years my parents finally came around and we have a decent relationship, my siblings still do not speak to me. And it's better that way.
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Baptized at a young age, homeschooled, and pioneered ...
by Wild_Thing inand all of this by the time i was 14. i was the youngest person in my pioneer school.
was anybody else in the trenches (to this degree) at such a young age?.
i look back on it now and marvel at how isolated i was.
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I don't think it's always the case for home schooled kids. But the ones who are forced to pioneer and home school entirely on their own are robbed of so many experiences and of a well rounded education. The girl that I knew personally, her parents worked full time and she was either in service with other uneducated persons, or was home alone supposedly Doing her school work Independantly. This was before the internet, so her world was very limited.
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Ask Happy Homemaker!
by compound complex inare you in a muddle over domestic chores?
ask happy homemaker for practical and up-to-the-minute advice.
you won't be disappointed!.
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Lol - I like the glass top cleaner, you rub it on and then wipe it off with a dry cloth, and everything is perfect. Also the glass cleaner that comes in the black spray can is amazing. I can clean anything without streaks with that stuff.
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Baptized at a young age, homeschooled, and pioneered ...
by Wild_Thing inand all of this by the time i was 14. i was the youngest person in my pioneer school.
was anybody else in the trenches (to this degree) at such a young age?.
i look back on it now and marvel at how isolated i was.
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I had a homeschooled roommate once. She was sadly one of the kids whose parents were not involved on her schooling. She had no idea about countries and continents. She wasn't stupid, just uneducated. Sad really.
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Gas or Electric Stove
by just fine ini am getting new appliances.
i have decided on black stainless for the finish.
the house is stubbed for gas and electric for the range.
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I had one of those Jenn air ranges with the grill - pain in the ass to clean. Never again on one of those. The last glass top range I had was pretty easy to clean as long as you used the cleaner made for it.
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Gas or Electric Stove
by just fine ini am getting new appliances.
i have decided on black stainless for the finish.
the house is stubbed for gas and electric for the range.
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You are correct they no longer make the "pilot" light kind of stoves. We have a generator so power outages aren't really an issue.
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Gas or Electric Stove
by just fine ini am getting new appliances.
i have decided on black stainless for the finish.
the house is stubbed for gas and electric for the range.
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Good point, except I don't ever watch those cooking shows 😜. I actually like to cook and experiment with new things. Because I have always had electric appliances, I was torn about which way to go. Now I know.